The Solution to Gender Double Standards should never be to give Men the restrictions Patriarchy puts on Women.

Doing that runs counter to the point of Progressiveness in my view, it should be about increasing Freedom not taking it away. We should be liberating Women (and Men) from the shackles that patriarchal gender norms have long placed on them.  Not forcing the bull-crap women have always dealt with onto men.

What has largely prompted this was seeing some people respond to Lindsay Ellis recent Video About Twilight, by saying "we need to start holding media aimed at boys to higher standards".  I am inherently against higher standards for Media consumption, period. I want more wish fulfillment fiction about Taboo and Problematic relationships, whether I agree with it being wrong in real life or not. These fantasies are something we need.  Back in the 90s it was conservatives saying immorality in media leads to immorality in real life, now many on the left have become what they used to hate and have no self awareness of it.

There are a few details of Lindsay's video I disagree with.  The whole Bella was leaving her family for her Boyfriend thing I addressed last month in Clannad and Twilight.  And I might be doing something in the future on the accusation that E.L. James is guilty of plagiarism.  But over all that video is saying what I've been saying for years, but much more eloquently.  In posts like My Feminist Defense of "Cute Girls doing Cute Things" and Yuri Anime.

But leaving Twilight aside, let's move on to something much more directly relevant to actual Political discussions of what should and should not be legal.

I can also see people mocking me for seeing anything progressive about the Open Polygamy in In Another World With My Smartphone.  It hasn't happened yet, but I can see it coming.  'A male with multiple female lovers is still a male fantasy, only other kinds of Plural Marriage can be viewed as progressive, Polygny is Regressive.'

Yes, I'm well aware that for most of human history in most cultures men having multiple lovers was accepted and even expected (even if in Greco-Roman and most Christian societies they could only have one actual Wife), while Women could be punished with death for the same thing.  But again, the solution to that Double Standard should have been allowing more Sexual Freedom for women, instead we did the opposite and now men are being held to the same unreasonable monogamous restrictions women used to be held to.

Not to mention how opposition to Polygyny is frequently tied to religious bigotry towards Mormons and Muslims.  The abuses associated with how Polygyny has been practiced in the worst forms of those religions can be made perfectly illegal by outlawing arranged marriages, (and helped out by our statutory rape laws).  But forcing Mormons to go outside the law to practice what many view as a central tenet of their faith violates the First Amendment, and only makes it harder to prevent those abuses, just like all other forms of Prohibition.

The Polygamous resolution to In Another World With My Smartphone's Harem is completely consensual, in fact it was one of the women who first suggested it.  I see quite a bit of Feminism in a group of women agreeing to share the man they love, considering how often in fiction women liking the same man seems to inevitably lead to conflict that could potentially end their friendship.  For the most part these girl's friendships began with their liking the same guy so it's quite the opposite of that problem.

I hope it becomes a trend, and I do want to see it expand to more diverse kinds of Group Marriages.  But if it takes a male fantasy to get the ball rolling then so be it.